FAQs

Do I *need* a therapist?

Maybe! Maybe not! Most people talk to their friends and family or trusted mentors and teachers and get the support they need. But what happens when everyone has an opinion about your life and their advice doesn’t feel useful? Talking to a therapist who is there for helps you sort through your feelings, emotions, and responses to the things that are upsetting you.

What kind of people do you work with?

In my counseling and psychotherapy practice I work with clients who are:

  • changing, or thinking of changing
  • questioning, seeking, and wondering
  • yearning for something that seems just on the edge of awareness
  • feeling anxious and wanting relief from troubling thoughts and physical symptoms
  • experiencing grief or loss
  • longing to have closer relationships with the people we love
  • struggling with feelings of where we belong in the world
  • wanting to deepen their relationship with the sacred within themselves and within others

I would be honored to join you on that journey of self-discovery.

How long does therapy last?

Many people feel a sense of relief in just a few sessions (6-8) and together we decide to bring our work to a close. Sometimes, clients work with me off and on for several years as they address and resolve issues in their lives. Occasionally someone comes for just a few sessions to get re-oriented to their lives and that feels like enough.

When people have been feeling bad for a long time and their struggles are complicated by their conflictual relationships with others, our work together is more complex and takes longer.

There are no quick fixes – and my experience is that clients get out of therapy what they put into it. Therapy is work.

Together we will work together to create a plan of treatment that addresses your concerns and gives you the skills to handle your life with more grace and ease.

How do I know if you are the right counselor for me?

Most folks find me through this website or an online directory listing. If you have picked up the phone to call me, or contacted me through this site, there is already a connection.

During our initial phone conversation, I will ask you questions about “why now” and what you want to achieve in counseling. Together we will decide if we want to set an initial appointment.

In our first few meetings, I am assessing you to see if I believe I  have the skills to help you. I am also asking you to assess me to see if you think I am the right person to companion you on this journey.

The single greatest determinant for a positive therapy outcome is the relationship between us. If you don’t feel comfortable with me, we can explore that together. And if we cannot resolve those feelings, I will offer you three referrals to other professionals.

It is the relationship that heals.

What is anxiety?

In my experience of working with clients – anxiety is the inability to tolerate uncertainty. People with anxiety live in the past (bad things happened – good things did too – but you don’t focus on them). People with anxiety live in the future (bad things might happen – and good things too – but you don’t focus on them).

Anxiety is the inability to be present “NOW.”

Anxiety is fear.

Therapy helps clients sort out real fear, from uncomfortable feelings. Therapy builds skills to tolerate uncertainty and explore and examine fears that keep you stuck and miserable.

 

What is depression?

People often say “I am depressed” when really what they want to say is I am sad or I am angry or I am lost or I am feeling empty.

Depression comes to let us know that we are living in a way that is not in alignment with our values.

Grief and sadness usually resolve in a short period of time (6 months or less is common). When empty feelings persist and you lose interest in things you used to enjoy, it is important to be assessed for depression.

Treatment for depression may include – a medication referral, cognitive therapy, behavioral therapy, skills building techniques and homework, and a focus on identifying and experiencing a full range of emotions.

Untreated depression takes time to resolve. Seek effective treatment at the onset of depression. Your life depends on it.

How do I get started?

Contact me for an initial phone interview to see if we are a good fit. Register online and then view my online calendar to select an appointment.

540.435.3781

FAX: (888) 446-5419

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